Are You Afraid of Negativity?

How do you react when someone says something, negative about what you are doing? Each person has a gift in certain areas of their lives. For me, I have a gift for writing; however, my singing is a different story.  What about you?

Does it bother me, if someone says something about my singing skill? No, it does not bother me; as I already know the truth. It’s why I sing for fun and not try singing on American Idol. Though I’d appreciate Simon’s commentary; it is not necessary.

Did you know there is a difference between a negative comment that helps a person; as opposed to a negative comment that only destroys. An open rebuke is not the same thing as a destructive comment.

What if, I say that I’d prefer an open rebuke over a loving comment that is never spoken. Confused? What am I talking about? Shall we begin with an illustration? Continue reading “Are You Afraid of Negativity?”

How Do We Edify One Another?

building1What comes to mind, when you hear the word, “edify”? Is it just a kind word? How about a positive pep talk? Would you think of  constructive criticism? 

Is there more to edifying someone than a kind word or compliments. Though a kind word can go a long way; an apt answer or a constructive word can do a great deal, for someone in need.

What is this? Am I saying, “Negativity is acceptable?” Destructive speech is never really acceptable; yet it is preferable to silence. What am I talking about?
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Dealing With Negativity – Overcoming A Fear of Criticism

When I created a video called “The Emperor’s New Clothes: After the Parade“, I felt a need to share my own personal story. I could identify with the Emperor’s staff. As a kid, I struggled with a fear of negative criticism. For me, it seems all criticisms were the same–DESTRUCTIVE. It was so intense, I feared going through my first work evaluation.

If my friends are reading this article, they’d be surprised. To them, I’m very open and receptive, these days. How did this happen? How did I overcome my fear of criticisms? Continue reading “Dealing With Negativity – Overcoming A Fear of Criticism”